We know lots of people worry about saying the wrong thing. Understanding what may be unhelpful and why, may make you feel more confident about talking with your relative or friend.
On this page, we’ve included some examples of things people with cancer tell us they don’t find helpful to hear and why. We have also suggested some alternatives.
If you have said one of these things, don’t be hard on yourself. No one gets it right all of the time. The most important thing is you are trying to reach out and help. Don’t let your anxiety about making a mistake make you afraid to offer support. Your relative or friend will appreciate that you are trying to help.
You can find more practical tips from people affected by cancer on The Source.