There is no right or wrong way to feel or react immediately after the death of a relative or friend. You may feel shocked or numb and as if everything is unreal. Or you may feel relieved that they are now at peace. Everyone reacts differently. You may have known that your relative or friend was dying and been preparing yourself for that. But sometimes a person may die unexpectedly, and this can be a huge shock. We have information about the different feelings you may have.
Your relative or friend may have died at home, or in a hospital, hospice or care home. If you are alone when your relative or friend dies, it may be possible and helpful to have someone with you soon after the death to support you. This might be a relative, friend, health or social care professional, or spiritual or religious adviser.
Many cultures and religions have ceremonies or rituals that are important to carry out when someone dies. A spiritual or religious adviser can help you with these if you would like them to.
If you want, you can spend some time just sitting with the person who has died.
It is important to do what you feel is right for you. Don’t feel that you have to do anything straight away or rush to get on with things.