In the first few hours after their death, you may feel very shocked or numb however well-prepared you were. You may have lots of overwhelming emotions, such as feeling extremely upset and angry. Many people also feel very relieved that their relative or friend can now be at peace.
Most cultures and religions have processes or rituals that they carry out at the time of death. It’s important for you to do what you feel is right. There may be some things that you need to do but don’t feel that you have to do anything straight away or rush to ‘get on with things’. If you want, you can just spend some quiet time with the person who has died. Many people like to sit and talk or hold hands, and see the person at peace, especially if the last few hours or days were difficult.
You may want to have someone there to support you. It may help to ask them to contact other people to let them know, if you don’t feel up to telling them. A spiritual or religious adviser can also support you and carry out any processes or rituals that are important to you and your relative or friend.