Making decisions about care
As a carer, it’s important to find a balance between what support you want to give and what support you can actually give.
Each person with cancer is an individual with their own wishes and needs, and it’s important to respect their preferences. However, they may not always ask for help. This might be because they don’t want to burden you. Or it may be because they don’t realise the demands that the illness and treatment may create. Their need for support may change over time.
These tips may help when you’re thinking about how involved you should be as a carer.
At a time of uncertainty, your relative or friend may need to feel in control of their life. So wherever possible, they should be involved in making decisions about their care.
Talking about what support you can provide will help you identify what’s needed. This may include being someone to listen, someone to share thoughts and feelings with, or someone to provide practical help such as driving, shopping or housework.
It may be that you don’t feel able to provide the type of support they need. There are a range of support organisations here to help you.
It’s also important to look after your own health and well-being, and to recognise what you can and can’t do yourself.
We have a booklet called Hello, and how are you? It’s a guide written by carers, for carers. You can order a copy from be.Macmillan.