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It can feel so difficult to talk about cancer that you may think, ‘Should I bother?’ or, ’Is it worth talking about what’s going on if it makes my friends feel uncomfortable?’ But talking can help you cope with any uncertainties or difficulties that may lie ahead.
Talking can give you support and help you have some control over your situation.
Generally speaking, people seem to get comfort from talking to each other. Discussing fears or concerns can often help us understand them better and put them into perspective.
For example, you may think you’ve got unanswered questions and that you’re finding it difficult to make up your mind about some issues. But by talking the situation through with someone, you may realise that you can find the answer or make a particular decision.
If the person you’re talking to hears your concerns and stays with you, this can also help to reassure you that your feelings are normal.
Talking about a fear or worry often stops it from growing bigger in our minds. Often when we’re thinking about something all the time, we worry about it more and more. Once the fear is out in the open and is being discussed, this process often stops.
We can also use talking to help us rehearse a difficult conversation we know we need to have.
Finally, talking about something important or personal creates a bond between people and this can make you feel appreciated and supported.
For answers, support or just a chat, call the Macmillan Support Line free (Monday to Friday, 9am-8pm)
If you have any questions about cancer, need support or just want someone to talk to, ask Macmillan.