Getting support

People’s reactions to the risk of infertility vary. You may come to terms with it quickly and feel that dealing with the cancer is more important. You may find that the impact doesn’t hit you until treatment is over. You may not have given much thought to your fertility and whether or not you want a family in the future. Or you may have always known that you wanted to start a family.

Worrying about your fertility may seem especially hard when you’re already coping with cancer. It can be difficult waiting and not knowing if your fertility will come back. Some people have a sense of loss and sadness. Others feel angry, anxious, lonely or disappointed.

You may find it helps to talk things over with your partner, family or friends. If you prefer to talk to a counsellor, your GP or cancer doctor can help to arrange this. Many hospitals also have specialist nurses who can offer support, and fertility clinics will have a counsellor you can talk to.

Talking to other men in a similar position may help you feel less isolated. Some organisations can provide this, as well as specialist advice and counselling. Or you can talk to people online. Our online community is a good place to start. You can also talk things over with our cancer support specialists free on 0808 808 00 00, Monday–Friday, 9am–8pm.

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