If the person you care for is at the end of life

While many people with cancer get better, others sadly will not. If you are caring for someone who is dying, this may be very difficult to come to terms with.

The person you are caring for may also find it hard to cope with their feelings. Talking openly with them could make it less frightening for you both and bring you closer together.

Looking after someone who is dying may be a very emotional time. You are likely to need extra help and support from family, friends, and professionals.

You may want to know what it is like to be with someone when they die. You can talk to the healthcare team about what to expect. They may be able to help with any questions you have.

We have more detailed information about the end of life to help people plan for this time. You and the person you care for may find it helpful.

You may also find support and information from Dying Matters. The ‘find me help’ section is aimed at people living with an illness and their carers.

Coping with bereavement

Talking about your feelings may help you cope.

If the person you are caring for dies, you may find bereavement counselling helpful. Cruse Bereavement Care may be able to offer you the support you need. We also have more information on coping with bereavement.

Macmillan has two bereavement groups on its Online Community, which many people find very helpful.

You can also phone the Macmillan Support Line for information and support.

Back to Looking after someone

Being a carer

As more and more people are living with cancer, a greater number of people are taking on caring responsibilities.

Working with professionals

It’s important to have a good relationship with the health and social care professionals looking after your loved one.

Preparing your home

There are practical things you can do to get the house ready before the person you care for comes home.

Support for you

Caring for someone with cancer can be challenging and tiring. Help is available to support carers and enable them to look after their loved one.