If your partner, relative or friend’s cancer gets worse, you may find that it’s no longer realistic for you to continue to look after them at home.
Try not to feel guilty or that you have failed as a carer. Remember that as their illness develops, their needs may change. A different type of care may make them feel more secure and safe.
The demands of caring can have an effect on you, too. You may both feel that it’s time to make other arrangements. It can help to talk about the situation and consider possible alternative arrangements that you would both feel happy about. The GP or community nursing or social service staff can give you advice. You should ask social services for a reassessment of your needs as a carer, as well as those of the person you are caring for.
This can be a difficult time and will continue to affect how you work. If you’re no longer physically caring for your relative or friend, you may have more time to work, but feel emotionally less able. It’s important to discuss the change in circumstances with your employer so that they can continue to support you.
Our section on caring for someone with advanced cancer has advice and information that you may find helpful.