Letting people know how you feel

Try not to hide your feelings all the time. You might decide to try not to get upset in front of the person who has cancer in case you worry them, and that’s fine. But make sure you are not dealing with everything on your own. Talk to your friends, if you can. Or to someone else in the family.

You don’t have to talk to anyone who you are not comfortable speaking with. If you don’t feel comfortable talking to someone close to you, then maybe a young carer worker or an adult at school or college could help. It doesn’t have to be your form tutor or even someone who takes you for lessons – it may be the school nurse or a teaching assistant. You can also chat online with support workers or other young carers at riprap.org.uk or kooth.com

There may be a local young carers’ support group you could join. Ask around at school or college. We have more information about organisations that can help. It can be easier to make friends with other young carers when you all have something in common, like going to the same school.

There are also plenty of people you can phone. You could call the Macmillan Support Line for free on 0808 808 00 00 and talk to a cancer support specialist. They can answer your questions about cancer, or just be there to listen if you feel like talking to someone. It is often helpful to share your feelings, but if you don’t want to deal with how you are feeling right now, that’s okay too. Do what works for you, and remember that help is there when you feel ready for it.

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