One of the most common problems when trying to help a person with cancer is knowing where to start. If you want to help, but don’t know what to do first, this section has some tips and advice.
It’s important to first find out if your help is wanted and what kind of help is needed. Once you know your help is wanted, you can offer to help with one of the things they need. It’s always good to try to be specific. Rather than saying, ‘Let me know if there’s anything I can do’, you could ask:
- ‘Shall I do the shopping?’
- ‘Would you like me to pick up the children from school?’
You can also say that you’ll keep in touch to see if there are other things you can help with.
Some people find it hard to accept support, even if they need it. This means that your offer may be refused. Try not to take this personally. They might not be ready to accept help yet or might wish to remain independent. You could make the offer again at a later date if they ever need any support.
Don’t pester your relative or friend into accepting your help. Some people are happy to do things on their own.