Being honest about your feelings will help develop trust between you, and it’ll make it easier for the other person to be honest about their own feelings. It may be helpful to say things like,
- 'I find this difficult to talk about...'
- 'I'm not very good at talking about...'
- ‘I don’t know what to say.'
You may worry that saying things like this will cause your loved one or friend further distress. However, in practice it tends to have the opposite effect, and the person you're talking to may be relieved that someone understands. It’s quite possible that the person you’re talking to feels the same as you. Even if you share the same feelings, remember not to stay focused on your own feelings. Make sure that you bring your attention back to your relative or friend.