Involving people who are close to you, such as your family and friends, can be really helpful. They may be able to help you think through some of the issues so you can plan ahead better. It’ll also help them to know what your wishes are so they can help make sure they are carried out.
If your plans involve your family or friends taking on more responsibility for your care - for example if you want to die at home| and need them to look after you - it’s important to discuss this with them.
You can ask them whether they think this extra responsibility will be too much for them. If it is, you can ask your healthcare team for advice. They can tell you more about support that might be available to help them, and about other care options.
Sometimes family and friends don’t want to talk| about planning ahead. They may appear to ignore the fact that you want to think about the future, perhaps by playing down your anxieties and changing the subject.
If this upsets or hurts you, try telling them. Perhaps start by reassuring them that this is something you want to do and it will help if you could talk to them about it. You could try saying something like this:
‘I know it’s difficult to talk about this, but I’d really like to chat through how I would like to be cared for if my health was to suddenly get worse.’