Your feelings about fertility

Being asked to think about the future when you have just been diagnosed with cancer can be difficult. Having children may be the last thing on your mind. Perhaps you don’t know if you ever want to be a parent. Or maybe you have always wanted a family and the idea of losing your fertility is very hard.

You may come to terms with it quickly and feel that dealing with the cancer is more important. Or you might find that the impact doesn’t hit you until treatment is over and you are sorting out your life again.

People often find their feelings about fertility change over time. It may be something that becomes more important to you after cancer treatment. You may have different questions about fertility or need more information.

Whatever you are feeling, there is support if you want to talk or have questions. It doesn’t matter whether you are starting cancer treatment or had treatment in the past. You may find it helps to talk things over with your partner, family, friends, or religious or spiritual adviser. If you want to talk to a counsellor, your GP or cancer doctor can help to arrange this. Fertility clinics also provide counselling.

Organisations such as the British Infertility Counselling Association (BICA) can offer support and counselling to people affected by infertility. Talking to other people in a similar position may also help you feel less alone. If you are 16 or over, you can join our Online Community.

At the time, my fertility was the last thing on my mind. But it’s been getting to me recently now I’m older and there are some babies in our family.