Lisa and Luke on fertility and cancer

Luke and Lisa sit in their garden. They watch their little girl playing and their son sits on Luke's knee.
Luke and Lisa sit in their garden. They watch their little girl playing and their son sits on Luke's knee.

Luke was diagnosed with bowel cancer in the summer of 2007. Both he and his new fiancée, Lisa, knew they wanted children in the future

but Luke's doctor warned him there was a small chance the chemotherapy would effect their chances.   

Lisa and Luke's story

Luke - I proposed to Lisa when I was in hospital. I’d just come back from the colonoscopy. I was half awake, half asleep, and when I woke up she wanted me to confirm it because she thought I was drugged up.

Lisa - Even in his speech on our wedding day he told everyone he was drugged up and that’s the only reason he asked me. But I know he was lying because he has told me since that he knew exactly what he was doing.

Lisa - We both knew we wanted kids, but we weren’t at the stage where we were thinking about having them, especially not after the diagnosis. But the doctor asked us to go to London and freeze some sperm for him, which was a very strange experience.

Luke - Having kids was an interesting process because, before I had the chemo, I had to go to London to donate sperm.  It was the oncologist Dr Sang that advised me to do this. He advised me that the chemotherapy I was on wouldn’t have an effect, but I should do it just in case. Better safe than sorry. It’s still being stored now but hopefully I’ll never need it.

I went there thinking this is fine. But the process was a bit intense. Lisa didn’t enjoy some of the questions about what would happen if I die, would I consent to her using my sperm to have kids and things like that. But I’d rather have that conversation than not.

Lisa - Now my life is my children. That’s all I do. School runs, cooking with them, cooking for them, tidying up after them. But I wouldn’t want it any other way. I love my children to pieces and that’s what our life’s about at the moment.